Agree to Disagree

Working Through Disagreements
We all have disagreements. To clash at times with family and friends is a part of life. Whether we simply have a difference of opinion with someone or engage in an argument, disagreements offer an opportunity for us to learn and grow.

One of the most important things we can do when we find ourselves in disagreement with anyone, whether they are close to us or not, is to try to remain calm and to be respectful. When we diagree over something minor, we usually just enage in some playful squabbling. However, when we are discussing something of importance to us, or if we diagree with someone, we do not particularly like, it may be difficult to keep from becoming angry and exchanging harsh words. From there, it is all too easy for a diagreement to escalate and become a full-blown shouting match.

During any disagreement, it is important to be respectful and let the other person state their opinion. Then listen and really try to hear what the other person is saying. Try to understand not just their words, but their feelings as well. Understanding is more important than agreeing. You may not come to an agreement, but you can agree to disagree and still keep peace.

If a diagreement starts to get heated, take a deep breath and stop talking. Make eye contact and as difficult as it may be, send the other person love. Try to find compassion. Chances are, there will be an energy shift and both of you will become calmer and better able to discuss your differences.

We should not however, withdraw from those close to us when they want to discuss issues. As uncomfortable as conflict may be, when we are able to work through disagreements the relationship is strengthened. Disagreements offer us a chance to become more accepting, loving, people and give others the chance to do the same.